*Sigh* For the second week in a row this weekend, my friends held a group sleepover and didn't invite me.

This may seem insignifigant, but four of my friends- my best and oldest friends- got together and essentially threw a party while carefully ommitting me from the guest list. I only heard of the event when Rokon (Her name to keep privacy) called me up asking for another friend's phone number and mentioned it. She had no idea whether I was going or not, but she didn't seem too surprised when I said no. Unhappy I was upon hearing this news, and though I didn't show it, I was really hurt inside. I spent a while just sitting and thinking mournfully about it. Why? Do all my friends just put up with me but secretly hate me for everything I do?

A day later, I dialed the same friend that had called me earlier. I asked her, among other things, why I wasn't invited. All she said was "There were reasons. you have certain... character flaws." She wasn't very specific. I just laughed it off, but it really did hurt. Is it because I'm too demanding? Too boastful? Too whiny? There really seems to be something my friends don't like about me that I just can't pinpoint.

I really am seeking consolation on this. Noodles, this post is intended for you to see as well.

(This emo rant brought to you by Zephyr's conscience.)

Ouch! I don't know what it is. I think you're great. It's their problem not yours.

Warning: Ranting may be ahead due to Eievui's short temper

"Certain character flaws"? Nobody is perfect. I'm sure Rokon has some "certain character flaws" herself. Ask them about what they think is wrong about you. They should've told you that before, though, because it's pretty thoughtless of them to not invite you twice without even saying a word why. And furthermore, they shouldn't even be your friends if they keep on hurting you like this with hardly an explanation why. That's not what friends are for.

Bottom line: Confront them and figure out what's wrong.

Aww, I'm sorry that's happening to you. But kinda like what Eievui said, if they were really your friends, they would invite you to those sleepovers. Even if they did have a good reason for not inviting you, they should tell you why instead of hiding it.

And I'm not sure what Rokon meant by character flaws. I think you're perfectly fine. I don't see why anyone wouldn't want to invite you to a party or a sleepover just because of "certain character flaws".

It wasn't actually Rokon that threw the sleepover- it was another friend. She's not really a good friend (We had a fight last year that she still holds grudges on) but I'd assume that she'd be willing to invite me to a sleepover. Plus, I'm bothered by the fact that my friends didn't stand up for me and ask whi I wasn't coming. I'm very disappointed.

Rokon's never been very specific about what she says, and she avoided letting me know about what exactly it was that was wrong about me. So I'm left unknowing.

To me, it sounds like your "friends" are putting you off for maybe some gossip. Or something similar along those lines, but I wouldn't know. The reason why I think this is because of the fact that they wouldn't tell you why they wouldn't invite you or even mention the sleepover in the first place and the fact that your one friend said something about the "supposed" character flaws. However, this could be me just thinking about conspiracy theories too...

It sounds like you're going to have to be forceful with them and let them know that you're being hurt with all of this and that you want to know what your "supposed" character flaws are. If they are your true friends, they will tell you why eventually. I'm very sorry that this is happening to you and I really wish it doesn't happen with anyone (I kinda went through what's happened with you in high school.. I ended up only really hanging out with two out of the five girls in our "group") and I hope this gets settled for you so you don't have to be in a lot of stress and pressure. :) I'm wishing you luck.

(If I said something hurtful in there, either let me know or edit my post and take it out. I won't be offended)

=( That's not fun... I don't know why they wouldn't invite you; I don't think you're demanding, boastful, or whiny. Hopefully everything will work out... but you know, if you have an extra plane ticket, you're always welcome over here! XD

All right. I will be speaking up for the accused, because I was also invited to that party. I know it really hurts you, Zephyr, when you aren't invited to these things, but I can't just invite someone over to someone else's house. Things don't really work that way. However, I'm not sorry for going over to a friend's house. You invite us over all the time and don't include Her. Sorry for putting things bluntly, but you're getting kind of hypocritical.

Zephyr, you know that she would never invite you to a sleepover, not in the state your relationship is in now. We just got her to the state of sitting at the same table as you, and it would just make everything worse to push it. Why do you think I haven't invited anyone over to my house in months? It's because I would have to leave one of you out, and that person would probably get really sad, as you probably are right now. I hate it when others are sad, so please, just get over it. For your sake and ours.

I feel sorry for you Zephyr. I hate it when that happens.
If they didn't invite you wouldn't that make them your ex friend?

She already was my ex-friend, but I thought we were sort of friends again. Just because you're friends with someone doesn't mean you have to be ABSOLUTE AWESOME BEST BUDDIES that do everything together. Still, we can honestly tolerate being in the same house, I would think. But I guess not.

Things haven't changed- they all gave me the cold shoulder at lunch today. Rokon was in one of her moods that she hates everything I say or do and she refused to let me sit next to her. So did the girl who the above paragraph is about. There was nowhere for me to sit. I had to go sit at a table next to sixth graders I don't even know. You know how awful that feels?

Zephyr, I am telling you that this is really getting on my nerves. Yes, I'm sorry about that all, but don't just ignore my reasoning. Everyone needs a break from someone at some point, because otherwise they just see their annoying flaws and can't even glimpse their good parts. Yes, everyone, if my other post did not tell you, I am among the group that you are calling "not true friends" and it is that that bothers me the most, that you would bring this out among people (no offense, y'all) that don't even know what happened, how you truly act in real life, and what the situation is.

Like I said, I can't invite you over to someone else's house. Rokon was also being really mean in saying that you weren't invited because of 'character flaws,' and I do not agree with that. Would you invite someone whom you rather dislike over to your house to spend the night with some of your best friends, only to have the entire thing go wrong, ruin it for everyone there, and possibly make the person you dislike feel even worse about it than they would have been had you not invited them over in the first place? And, why, Zephyr, didn't you even mention it at school today? Did you finally realize that it isn't a big deal, that you didn't need to make such a fuss, and that we didn't mean to hurt you? I'd like to talk to you, in private, to make sure you understand exactly what happened and why.

Well, if what noodles said is true, I agree with him/her. If it's even close to that, I agree with her. But, if it's not even CLOSE to that, I agree with you, Zephyr.